Meditation is my ultimate concern, the only concern

MY SIMPLE CONCERN HERE IS MEDITATION. And this is very strange -- rarely do you ask questions about meditation, that does not seem to be your main concern.

    TO ME, IT IS MY ULTIMATE CONCERN, THE ONLY CONCERN, and to you it seems not a priority -- it is not the first item on your mind. Perhaps it may be the last thing on your laundry list, but certainly it is not the first. The first things are stupid things, trivia. You waste your time, you waste my time.

    And I am ready even to help you to solve those problems just so that you can get rid of all this nonsense and have simple, loving relationships. But that will be possible only when meditation becomes your priority. OUT OF MEDITATION, EVERYTHING ELSE WILL BECOME GRACEFUL. You will be able to see deeply into your own acts, into your own behavior, and you will be able to have some compassion for the other person -- his human frailty, the possibility of his committing mistakes.

    WHEN SOMEBODY COMMITS A MISTAKE you don't have to be angry, you have to be more compassionate, so that he does not start feeling guilty. Because you don't understand the psychology of things: if one person commits a mistake and you become angry -- and your anger is justified because the mistake has been done by the other person -- YOUR ANGER CREATES HUMILIATION IN THE OTHER PERSON. That humiliation becomes a wound which wants revenge. So the other person will wait until you commit a mistake -- and you are not beyond committing mistakes -- and then he will take revenge with a vengeance.

    NEVER MAKE ANYONE FEEL GUILTY. Because if you make the person guilty he or she can only hate you, love becomes impossible.

    That's why I repeat again and again: LOVE NEEDS AS A BASIC FOUNDATION, MEDITATION. Only in the heart of meditation roses of love can grow. That is the right soil, there is no other way.

OSHO
The New Dawn
Ch #12: If you want consolation, go somewhere else